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Can girls be friends with a married crossdressers?

I a 36 crossdresser who is married. My wife knows, but tinks I quit. I do not want to bring it out to er, but could use someon to talk with. Would a girl be willing to be friends or would it be innappropriate?

Public Comments

1. Sometimes it's good to have an outsider to talk to. But the home problems won't be solved that way. Your wife thinks you quit. As painful as it is you need to tell your wife, and go through counseling. I say honesty is the best policy. You can still have a girl as a friend to talk to but you need to talk to your wife first. Good Luck.
2. Yes, girls can be friends with married crossdressers. It is normal for married men to be just friends with women.
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4. Yes, it would be inappropriate. Your going to feel guilty about hiding this from your wife. She will get suspicious. Nothing good can come from this. It is bad news all the way around. What you need to do is talk some more about your wife. Talk to her about catnip. Some cats have no response to catnip. Other cats will play with it for a while, and then leave it behind. Other cats will go completely crazy over it. It all depends on how their brain is wired. The same thing goes for guys too. Some guys have their brains hard-wired to release dopamine and other neurotransmitters when they cross-dress. These neurotransmitters produce sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. It affects the reward centers of your brain, so it mimics the addiction response. You really cannot stop your brain from releasing neurotransmitters. So you feel as if you NEED to cross-dress. Men with this condition usually consider it a problem. They are heterosexuals. They want to live a normal, happy, married life. So they keep their cross-dressing private and very limited. That's fine. They are taking control over their fetish and living a "normal" life. Remember this mimics the addiction response so you have to control this, or it will take control over you. Of course, there are those men who don't think this fetish is a problem. They prefer to celebrate their cross-dressing fetish. They just go further, and further and further.... you get the idea. Fetishes and the addiction response are funny things. If you just do the same thing over and over and over, they the brain will release less and less dopamine. If you want the same stimulus, then you must increase the cross-dressing. Knowing how the brain works with fetishes is the key to your taking control of your life. Your wife needs to help you by serving as your coach. She should give you a little room to cross-dress based upon her tolerances. Some suggestions may include: - Use some men's clothing that are made of the same material as lingerie, such as men's nylon pajamas, men's satin boxer shorts, etc.. I also suggest using two pairs of nylon pajama pants as they slide, and feel so smooth. - Allow some time to use panties and maybe tights and hose when you wear your normal men's clothes. You can't see these underwear anyway. Its no big deal. - Other items depend on the wife's tolerance. I think she should allow you have a couple articles of female clothing with set times when you can use them. Just keep using the same articles over and over. Do not expand your wardrobe. Eventually it becomes so routine that your brain will release less and less dopamine. You will still feel comfortable with female clothing, but you will not feel the same need for it.