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Girls opinion needed...Want 2 decided weather i should tell my gf about my crossdressing past??

Plz plz only girls reply.i do not crossdress anymore and i never considered myself one...but a couple of years ago i used 2 get really turned on when i tried on womens clothes and shoes and everything...i hav stopped physically doing it for about 2 years now but i still hav little fantasys about it every once and awhile. yet i hav not had that urge 2 actually again start trying things on... about a month ago my girlfriend joked around and said she wanted 2 paint my nails... as u may hav guessed i totally was down for it but didnt tell her right away...she was totally kidding but kept going at it till i told her that yeah i would let her...at this point she was like haha i was just messing with u i wouldnt really make u do that. but i really wanted 2.....so yeah she doesnt know about my lil crossdressing back ground and i has just wondering if i should tell her...if your guy told u that he used 2 b how would u react??? thx in advance and remember iam not a crossdresser and i never was

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1. err.... honestly i would personally be a little freaked out. but it's probably best to be honest.... and maybe you'll find someone who's turned on by that too but (sorry) from the limited info about ur current gf i'm guessing not her. erm....it all depends on how important this is to u, how important honesty is in your relationship, how afraid u are of rejection, etc. best of luck =)
2. I have a friend who had an arranged marriage. He is a closet cross dresser. His wife has no clue about it. He claims he's not homosexual yet says he once thought about getting it on with a guy. Anyway, that's digressing from the point. If he were honest with his wife, then he could save a relationship. Because his wife, coming from a village in india, wouldn't understand it or joke about it. He could free her and free himself and save 2 lives. I suggest you to tell your girlfriend and be straight and tell her you're not homosexual, but it just turns you on.--I mean at least she can joke about it... If she takes it lightly then you're in for gold. If she doesn't, then i'm sorry my friend.. your kinky life is not meant to be with hers.
3. You never know, she might be into it too. Try bringing up the subject in a jokey way to see how she reacts. If shes open minded she will be able to deal with it even if she doesn't really understand why you like it. If she gets freaked out by the idea ,and it really is in the past for you, then what she doesn't know wont hurt her. Ultimately, I think if you want a lasting relationship, honesty is best. She'll respect you for telling her if nothing else.
4. listen 2 me i think u should come out of the closet with a nice dress and high heels lip stick the whole 9 yards im messing with you man .i say be you dont pertend 2 b what ur not if u like to wear womans clothes do it im all about truth you cant deny ur self we only got 1 time on this rock so live now or regret it later
5. Well for one I would be surprised but I wouldn't see it as a negative thing really. I mean its something that would be fun doing for role playing and stuff, if you wouldn't mind if I were to dress a guy or something and frisk ya or whatever, ;). But on the real I have always been a pretty open person about nearly anything, so I wouldn't freak out like most. Though I can't speak for your gf there, I mean some women think its weird and disturbing to find out their man is into not so "manly" pursuits. So I think when you do tell her, sit her down calmly and say something to the effect of there was a time once in your life where you used to like a certain lifestyle, but recently you have discovered its not for you, although it still arouses you, but not as serious a lifestyle choice for you. And then when she askes what sort of lifestyle explain about the cross-dressing. There is no guarantees she won't end things or what she will think will be positive, but at least you respectfully told her on your own and it would be up to her to decide if she can handle it or not. If she can't, then she wasn't the woman for you, but if she can then great.
6. Well I can't trully tell u until I was in that position..but did you have any gay tendencies? I dunno it would deff not be a turn on to me...(sorry to be so blunt that's just how I roll) If you can keep it under wrap than don't tell her.. But the truth is always the best situation in the long run.. I really didn't help u much but I can just say I would have to be in that situation..And if I really loved him we could probably work it out after a long talk
7. Well man, I know you said no men, but I am a guy who crossdresses and I've been through the same song and dance that you're going through now. Now when you're saying that you're not a crossdresser yet you really enjoyed dressing up, it makes me wonder if you're being honest with yourself. That is something you have to decide on for yourself, but there is no shame in being a crossdresser, and you are by far from the only man who has enjoyed dressing in women's clothes. Studies have shown that five percent of all men crossdress more or less, and of those men 90-95% are heterosexual. What might help if you're really struggling with this is to talk with a therapist who is well versed in gender identity and expression. As for your girlfriend, I would say to tell her. If she really does love you at the very least she would attempt to understand. Things like this if you try to hide them can be very destructive to a relationship. But you never know, she actually might like it. Now if you decide to tell her, DON'T rub it into her face and wear regular clothes when you give the speech. But ultimately you gotta respect her opinion on it. However, do not let her belittle you for it. I remember having to tell my most recent girlfriend that, but she turned out to actually like it. If you want to talk about this more, feel free to give me an e mail.