Mens High Heels

Is there really a way to stop or reduce crossdressing urges without throwing my clothing and accessories away?

I want to live my life as a man without throwing my clothing and my shoes away. I spent a whole lot of money buying my high heels and my clothes. I want to have a wife and children, a lot of people think I'm gay but I'm really not gay at all.

Public Comments

1. give them to mee then ;):P
2. Honestly hunny, just choose the vagina. Being a man and having a d*ck is not all its cracked up to be.
3. Every cross-dresser goes through stages. I believe that every cross-dresser goes through purges, where he commits himself to never cross-dress again, ever. And every one does return to cross-dressing... Your brain is hard-wired to release dopamine and other neurotransmitters whenever you feminize yourself, or whenever you just think of feminizing yourself. It is a sexual response, so any sexual thoughts are likely to be mixed. In fact, many married cross-dressers say they mix cross-dressing fantasies with their intimate times. You cannot stop your brain from releasing dopamine and other neurotransmitters. So what can you do? You can take control over this and live a normal, healthy, productive life. Understand that this is a battle. You have to understand what you are up against. You also need to take some positive action: learn how to appreciate everything in life that makes being a man so great. Understand that this is not your fault. Your brain is running on automatic pilot and it has interpreted cross-dressing with actual contact with a female. It responds to cross-dressing just like you were making it with a female. It releases dopamine and other neurotransmitters which really, really feel so very good. (The neurotransmitters make you feel great, not the clothes.) Of course, you are not in contact with a female. Your brain was just fooled. But the rational side of your brain tries to make sense of this and it doesn't want to believe it was fooled. It wants to believe that there must be a girl present. It would rather believe that your male side just had a sexual experience with your female side. (A kind of autosexual orientation.) This isn't the way human intimacy is supposed to be. However, when you get down to it all fetishes are about using objects as substitutes for human intimacy. You need to take control of your cross-dressing by limiting it to just a few articles, and reduce the frequency of your cross-dressing. Be satisfied with yourself, bugs and all. Fetishes are no big deal. Get out and do more with others. Improve your social skills and your self-esteem. Date girls who never ever get asked out on dates, just to improve your social skills. Learn how to make conversation with others, talking about their interests. Learn how to compliment others. Tell girls that you think they are wonderful, and just leave it at that. Provide service to others. Serve the poor and needy. Defend the weak. Be a hero. You can do this.