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How do i start my MTF transgender life?

I am 16 and want to be a girl. I feel emotionally and in the inside like a girl. I just started shaving my body and cross dressing during the night. I would like to know who should i talk to? Where should i get clothes? What do i need to know? Oh by the way neither my parents or friends know. A girl just needs some help here.

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1. If you have to ask this, then you are not ready and possibly never will be. Enough of the throwaway lines though, even if I am correct at the start there you need to find and arrange appointments with a gender therapist. Where you will find one depends on what country/state you are in! You could also try looking up any local LGBT/GLBT groups, there's normally one in pretty much every large city or university.
2. Start saving up your money, because it's going to be expensive and it takes a long time. At the moment, you're not of legal age to make the physical changes necessary for such a transition. However, you can take the first step prior to turning 18. First, DO see a therapist - one who specializes in gender reassignment can explain to you fully the process of what you're contemplating. At such time as the therapist and/or other medical professionals, then you'll be ready to start the hormonal therapy (which will continue for as long as you live). Following this, there's an additional period of time while you are essentially a transvestite - dressing in female clothing, presenting yourself as female to the world, but still with male genitals. THEN, you will be prepared for the necessary surgeries to complete the physical transformation. And after THAT, it will still be necessary to amend and/or change your birth certificate, driver's license, and all other ID documentation. Good luck.
3. Start by making contacts and meeting others like yourself in your area. Look for Trans groups and LGBT groups that are local if you can. (online if you cant). Build a support network. This is where and how you will find many answers and resources, Other trans-folk who will be able to help you avoid wasted time, money, and energy in the wrong places. They will know the trans friendly stores, therapists, etc. They will also be able to help with so many other issues you havent even thought of yet and some that you have. Like proven methods of coming out to your parents and friends when you are ready. Your building a new you. Like building a house, start with a good foundation and the rest will be a lot easier.
4. finding a support group for ts's is very good advice- that's what i did. from there you can get advice on therapists/counselors doctors and most everything else. the support group will have people going through transition just as you are. stay with it if it's what you really want- you can do it. i did. good luck hon.
5. 1. Find support organizations,therapists and such in your area: go to google (or your favorite search engine) and type in the search box AREANAME transgender Where AREANAME ,might be the city, or province, region, etc. Also, try not just transgender,but transgender youth. 2. Review Andrea James EXCELLENT suggestions: http://www.tsroadmap.com/early/earlyindex.html AND this great web site for you: http://www.antijen.org/ 3. If , after seeing therapists, other trans-folk,etc, that you chose to go thru transition (rather than just CD , do drag shows, or whatever) then prepare for supporting yourself and being shunned by your family and friends. Do this by: ...A Getting a decent education that can help you find a professional job Explore grants,scholarships, student loans and whatever it takes (btw, you want to do this, regardless of transition plans,but it really helps w/ the long term money thing) ...B saving your money, getting part-time work,NOW, to help prepare you, in case parents find out and try to hurt you, or just throw you out on the street. ...C. Find out more about your parents and families IDEAS and feelings about this area Possibly rent a copy of the movie "Ma Vie en rose"...and watch it with them, to see how they react to the main character. ..D. Begin to make real life plans, i.e. work, career, area to live in,etc. Being a chick is not just parties,dates and modelling. Its supporting yourself, becoming a young career woman, being indepednent all while keeping up expectations of your appearance. Are you ready to start waking up 1 or 2 hours early every day , for the next 30 years, to work on your look? Exercise and then style your hair, and put together an outfit? Best of luck! and be sure that it will not be easy.
6. It's almost impossible to transition successfully without a gender therapist. You can start here... http://www.drbecky.com/therapists.html