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How would you break it to your parents that you were a Transgender?

I'm fifteen.. and my mom is always telling me that '"I'm a beautiful girl." And using the female pronouns.. and calling me by a girl name.. and I hate it. I want to tell her, but shes always saying how she wishes I'd be girlier, and wear girl's clothes. I know she wouldn't understand and am almost 0 certain she wouldn't let me wear a binder, which I think I may do on my own anyway. She says she'd love me no matter what, but I honestly don't believe she'd let me get any surgery or think at all that I'd know for sure. (Of which I'd be more than happy to go to a gender counselor if she wanted me to, and considering I HATE counselors, thats a big step for me) I'm very serious about this.. And as for my dad.. well he always said that if he found his son was gay, he'd disown him.. he may be different now.. but I can only imagine what he'd do if he found his 'daughter' was supposed to be his son.

Public Comments

1. well this is very confusing but if you REALLY wanted to do this and negociated with your mom and dad i think it would go mostly your way
2. I would start by preparing myself for a LOT of Drama. That's all I can really tell you. You're 15 and you are having a sexual identity crisis. Wow, what a World we all have to live in. Good luck
3. Wow i am really confuse i don't know if you are a boy who wants to be a girl or a girl who wants to be a boy...What ever it is good luck in your journey, hope verything works out for the best.
4. I see where youre coming from When i was younger i always wished i was a boy instead of a girl I used to wear boy clothes, hang out with all the guys on my block and play sports all day So i was a huge tomboy And my mom always said to stop acting like a boy, be more girlie, probably everything your mom says to you So she always paid attention to my sister who was as girlie as it gets and basically ignored me So anyways you get what im saying cause youre going through it right now But i would try to ease them into it Give out subtle hints that can get them used to the idea before you tell them Because thats something you dont want to say flat out So just do that for a little while and eventually, when you think that theyre ready to listen Tell them Because i know that if you dont let them know over a period of time They will think its just a phase and youll grow out of it Like all parents believe everything we do is a phase Even when its not But i seriously wish you the best of luck and i wouldnt worry about it to much Because your parents do love you and will eventually accept you for who you really are...... A boy Good luck!
5. You're in a position that anybody would find extremely difficult. Few people realize how much stress transgender people go through. I think you should really take time to prepare. Do all the research you can to show your parents that you're completely normal, and that transexuality is more common than it seems. Some parents think they're kids do it for attention or because they're going through some phase. Your dad sounds like someone I'd like to slap. Do you have any friends who know about you? You may want to look into support groups and other things to help you if your family doesn't react well. Good luck.
6. Wait till your 18 move out and transition then, you will have to see a gender therapist though as for me, I told my parents on the phone when I was 26