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transgender what should i do?

i have had felling of being transgender in the past and have touched the subject with my wife about weaing womens clothes but she was completely against it and showed how she felt about it, what should i do, should i just do it secretly or try and supress my fellings like i have tryed to do for the last 10 years.

Public Comments

1. Don't you mean transvestite? Unless you actually want to be a woman, you are not transgendered. If you really feel the urge to wear women's clothes, you should probably do it when your wife is out of the house.
2. i think you are a transvestite, not transgendered. transgender/transsexual means you want to be the opposite sex that you are biologically born transvestite means you dress in the opposite sex's clothing/underwear
3. As I have come to understand, you're yet another straight guy who's turned on by the thought of yourself as a female. "Autogynephilia" it's called--you can google it. I assure you it's not my bag, but I've learned to recognize it. What you and your wife are probably both afraid of is that it will make you gay; because being straight, and not really having a clue as to what gay is, both you and your wife suppose that gays want to be women, or to be like women. Trust me, gays don't like women; they don't want in any way to resemble women, and they don't want men who do. Try and get this through your head: When gay men have sex, neither is "the woman." Maybe if you explain this to your wife--that only heterosexual men are enough into women that they actually want to BE women--maybe she'll be willing to compromise on a little "rôle-playing." Little by little, nothing serious, just for fun. See where it goes.
4. Transvestite = wearing women's clothes and acting feminine Transgendered = major operation plus wearing women's clothes
5. That's not something you should keep bottled up. Keep talking about it. Particularly if its worrying and plaguing you this much. Letting your wife know how you feel in the long run will work out the best for you both. Best of luck x
6. Transsexual or cross-dresser? If the former... you will only be able to keep it bottled up for so long. These feelings will only grow stronger in time. I suggest you seek out a GENDER therapist: http://www.DrBecky.com/therapists.html If you need more information to help you understand things, maybe this site will help: http://www.LynnConway.com edit: Give me a thumbs down if you want, but your question was unclear. If you're a cross-dresser just say so!
7. Hi Dave, if you value your family life you will have to stay 'closeted' ie do it in secret, not easy but thats the way it is,trust me there are thousands like you, I am one of the few lucky ones where my wife accepts me as Sinead and even helps me. I wouldnt try wearing her clothes as she will instinctively know, so get some of your own and hide somewhere safe. good luck.
8. dont supress your feelings otherwise it'll eat you inside..best thing is to keep some of your own clothes, wig, shoes and maybe hide them well inside your loft and when your at home for long periods of time or out on business somewhere.. dress up!! :) i guess im going to be in a similar position to you when i get married.. gosh..