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I think I am transgender but I don't want to be how can I change?

I'm a 14 year old female and I think I may be transgender,all my life I've always been a tomboy and wore boy clothes,but I didn't think nothing of it,I always wanted to be a boy even though I'm a girl and I always sort of hated being a girl because I like to wear boy clothes and everyone tells me boy's are supposed to wear boy clothes and girls are supposed to wear girl clothes.well I don't like wearing girl clothes because their girly and tight and they don't look good on me.They look good on other girls but not on me.anyway I thougfht maybe I was a lesbian untill I found out about transgenders.so now I'm confused I don't really want to be transgender,because I don't want to hate myself for being a girl I just want to be normal ,can someone help me?please

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ooo maybe u r just a lesbian and hate the stereotype girl. i mean if u hate having boobs etc... u might be transgendered but if u just like to act like a boy and hate girly things and like girls ur probably just a lezbian Edit: there r butch lesbians
I would say you're just a tomboy who dislikes girly things. It depends on how much you wanted to be a boy when you were little. From just not liking girly things, to actually wanting to be a boy and have sex with girls.
You ARE normal--the mistake you are making is thinking that you are not. Maybe at this point you are in denial (I'm just analyzing and could be wrong) or maybe you are not ready to accept who you really are (and that is fine too). If you want to dress more masculine, then do it. Do what is comfortable to you and once you do what you FEEL is right, you will figure out who you are and then you must be PROUD of it. Just because you dress more masculine does not mean you are transgender, and if you choose to be transgender that is ok too. Be true to YOU and do what makes you happy--not what you think will make others happy. God bless. Hmmm....thumb's down for being honest. How SAD.
Everyone of us has been there. You can only be sure yourself, therapy can help as a professional will ask the right leading questions. You have to decide are you a boy or a butch lesbian, we cannot tell you. What I can tell you for certain is that every transsexual I know, at first hated the idea and just wanted to be "normal".
It sounds like you are listening to the stereotypes that people have been telling you - that if you aren't a girly girl or obscenely feminine, that if you have masculine traits, you must be transgender. But the answer is up to you. Do you dislike being in your own body? Do you feel like you should be male and your life is negatively affected because you aren't? Then maybe you are transgender. Or do you just like being boyish and aren't concerned that you have a female body? Don't get stuck in someone else's preconceptions about gender. If you like being the way you are, then do what you want and don't change just because you think you are supposed to.
no you not a transgender everyone goes through the tomboy phase i went through it when i was 14i didn't wear girly or very tight clothes now I'm 16 i got over my tomboy stage maybe you going through a phase or you a lesbian
just because you like wearing boy's clothes doesn't mean you're a lesbian or transgender. it just means you like being comfortable! i totally understand you. however, if you're concerned about what people might think, or if you want to change, yet still be comfortable, there are plenty of loose, baggy girl's clothes, too. cargo pants, for example. or cargo shorts. khakis or green, doesn't matter. but it depends. just be happy with who you are, and always be open to possibilites. just love yourself, there are many people like you. ^^ and there are plenty of girl's clothes that aren't tight and girly. by girly, i guess you mean pink, or labels, or something. but there are plenty of clothes for adventorous, or sporty girls that aren't lacey or anything.
There is nothing wrong with being a tomboy. It doesn't mean your gay or trans gender. I was a tomboy when I was growing up and i guess I still am . I was never comfortable in frilly clothes. I was not good at doing my hair or makeup. I still ain't. I keep it simple. My hair is still short. I dress in jeans and t-shirt most of the time. I even buy men sneakers cause they fit better. I have also been married for 24 years and I have two boys. I had such fun raising my boys cause I could relate so well to them. My husband doesn't have a problem with my tomboy ways. Be comfortable with who you are. One day you may enjoy being a girl. It's pretty great.
Ultimately only you can know if you're transgendered or not. You're still very young, though, so you have a lot of time to figure things out. I will tell you, though, that I spent the better part of 25 years trying desperately to be a "normal" boy before I accepted that I was never any kind of boy to begin with. Be honest and open with yourself and I promise you'll figure it out. :)
You're going to hate this but you are very young and have lots of time to find out who you really are without labels first. You don't have to hate yourself for any reason. If you are transsexual you will find you are very uncomfortable in your body, but I hear you saying you don't want to hate yourself for being a girl and that tells me being a girl is important for you. That says you probably are not transsexual. And you have a lot of years to work things out for yourself so be kind to yourself.
Ok, throw out the labels and everything you hear and trying to figure out which mold you fit in. Then, think about how you identify and how you want to live and interact with the world. Do you just prefer to dress in guy's clothes but identify as female? Do you outright completely identify as male? How do you want to present yourself as and live as? As a masculine woman? Or as a man? Take some time and figure out your identity. There's a lot of different ways of identifying and living. It may take a while to sort things out. Heck, I've been at this transitioning thing for over 1 1/2 years and I'm still finding myself. It can take time. Play around with gender and find where you're comfortable. Happy hunting!
As I have learned from my own experience, everything is not black and white. We would like to think so but it just isn't that tidy. Humans in general like to identify and label people and things and separate them into nice tidy groups. Real life though is black, white and every shade of gray! I know it is easier said than done (believe me!) but try not to label yourself. Try to allow yourself to be yourself whoever that may be. If you feel better in boys clothes, wear boys clothes and feel good! As time goes by, you will get a clearer picture of who you are. Life will be a lot easier for you if you relax and allow yourself to be who you are regardless of what other people think. They have no idea and even if they did, it doesn't matter. What matters most is that you accept yourself and be happy! Best wishes!! Jennifer